Friday, February 01, 2002

Zenpriest #32 - The Glass Pussy Ceiling

I'm a male of the "old school" of masculinity. I realize that makes me a dinosaur in this day and age. But, having watched this whole slow-motion cultural train wreck from the beginning, I see men throwing away a lot of their strengths.

After all the yammering at them by women to become more like women, I see men of today doing just that. And the problem with that is that the female traits they are emulating are precisely the ones which tend to make women ineffective.

Let me use an example to illustrate. We all know by now that the whole "wage-parity/glass-ceiling" bit is complete horsehit. Women make less money than men because they work fewer hours, work less hard during the hours they do spend, take more time off work, and gravitate toward less risky jobs - thereby avoiding all the aspects of jobs for which higher compensation is paid.

What I see here is a bunch of NiceGuys™ complaining that there is a "glass pussy-ceiling." "Us NiceGuys™ only get 75 pieces of ass for every 100 that those EvilGuys™ get!" And, that's true, because EvilGuys™ do more of what it takes to get pussy than NiceGuys™ do, so they get paid more in the coin of the realm of the sexual marketplace.

Just like I have been saying to women all these years, choices have prices and consequences. You can play it safe, OR you can get laid - take your choice based on which results you prefer.

And, what I hear back sounds a whole lot like "But, we want to play it safe, and get laid." to which I say the same thing that I say to women whining about wanting a "woman-friendly workplace" - things just don't work that way. They never have, don't now, and I'm pretty sure they never will.

Guys who are aggressive and take risks, and who are thick skinned enough to ignore rejection, get laid more than guys who don't. And, because they take risks, some of them end up being Kobed. There's something inherent in the meaning of the word "risk" in that.

I don't want men to follow women down that primrose path to helplessness and ineffectiveness. Male values and ethics have served me very well in life and I have not only been able to survive pretty comfortably without massive and intrusive government intervention and protection, in many cases I have been able to survive, in spite of it.

You may have run across my notorious dictum that the best way to kill a bad idea is to implement it - as quickly and thoroughly and with as much fanfare as you can. As long as you fight it, the people pushing for it can paint you as obstructionist and claim that their hare-brained idea will be the salvation of everything. With no evidence to the contrary, their bullshit plays better to onlookers who want it all than your more disciplined approach and you get played to be the bad guy and lose in the court of public opinion. No matter how long and hard you fight it, people will find ways to push it through the back door and implement it incrementally, and the idiocy of it will be masked by the fact that you're keeping things working.

If, on the other hand, you implement it immediately and completely, making sure everyone knows who is responsible for it, when things go to shit the spectators start shouting for the heads of those who thought it up.

I have been fighting this progressive criminalization of male desire since the early 80s. I went head to head against MacKinnon and Dworkin and the religious right over the Minneapolis porn ordinances, along with a small handfull of other men. That was a lot of fun, NOT! The diabolical thing about criminalizing male desire is that we are all guilty of it - we walk around on the lam just waiting for some woman to drop the hammer on us.

If things get as much worse in the next 20 years as they have gotten in the last 20, when the 20 and 30 somethings are 40 and 50 somethings, are they going to be hanging around on forums like this one talking to the then 20 and 30 somethings saying "yeah, you guys sure have it bad!"?

The reason any culture criminalizes something is to try to stamp it out. Apparently, they are now trying to stamp out "unsolicited compliments" and any form of male initiative in starting relationships. And guys keep letting themselves get fined and tossed in jail for providing the benefits of relationships to women who aren't doing jack shit to bring them about.

hmmmmmmm

Yeah, I know guys are saying "But, if we don't pursue women then some EvilGuy™ will and then he will get the pussy we might have been able to have." Yeah, that's true, but he also might end up like Kobe Bryant, or paying child support to some skank for the next 18 years.

Young guys gotta take the risk, I know that. The screaming hornies demand it. So, if they are, at least go for the big payoffs.

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